How to Overcome Emotional Sensitivity

How to Overcome Emotional Sensitivity
It is possible to adjust your emotional sensitivity. Do it with patience and understanding.
You will be easily hurt by comments and actions that are 'normal', that most people do not find hurtful. Misinterpreting constructive, everyday interactions can limit your ability to lead a happier life.
It's important to balance your sensitivity with common sense, confidence and resilience so that you do not over- react to life's everyday events.
While others certainly can assist you, you are your own master and always will be. Be sincere about your feelings and look within.
Explore your sensitivity. There is a host of questions you can ask to gain understanding, such as the subject of the sensitivity as well as if you feel sensitive to many things in general (perhaps social-wide issues). Perhaps you're very sensitive to a particular person or group of people? Does the depth of your usual sensitivity vary? Do you react in a big way or a small way to things you perceive as hurts or emotional harm? Try to explore all the subtle details of what or who sets off your sensitivities.

• Meditation is also an activity you can look into for exploring the sensitivity.
  
•   Mindfulness is an excellent format of meditation to look into as you can start to identify the individual feelings, motivations and complexities and address each issue in your own time.
  Find out if there is a particular trigger for your sensitivity. Often sensitivity rests in specific areas that have key triggers. For the main part, these triggers form from our five senses such as an image, colour, a scent, sound, or a sensation recalling a past event or reminding you of a person. Or, the trigger may be more direct, such as being in a certain place, such as a cemetery, hospital, school, open spaces, someone's house, etc.
  Other triggers might be patterns or habits you've developed over time to cope with work, or relationships that you find challenging without questioning whether this pattern is healthy for you. In the case of a pattern or a habit, it can be harder to discern the impact on your sensitivity because it's likely to have become an avoidance strategy in order to calm your sensitivities, but recognizing it is essential.
  

 Writing down your sensitivity triggers in a notebook can be helpful as this allows you to transfer the abstract thoughts about your alleged sensitivities and turn them into concrete words upon paper. Sometimes just in the doing of this, you can begin to see the idea of the sensitivity changing and being replaced by a more realistic

view of the trigger or situation.
 The triggers are individual in nature. Even if
someone you know has the same trigger about the same issue, how it affects you might not affect them the same way. It really is coincidental, not universal. 

The inner flame
Before you meditate, try to imagine a flame inside your heart. Right now the flame may be tiny and flickering; it may not be a powerful flame. But one day it will definitely become most powerful and most illumining. Try to imagine that this flame is illumining your mind. In the beginning you may not be able to concentrate according to your satisfaction because the mind is not focused. The mind is constantly thinking of many things. It has become a victim of many uncomely thoughts. The mind does not have proper illumination, so imagine a beautiful flame inside your heart, illumining you. Bring that illumining flame inside your mind. Then you will gradually see a streak of light inside your mind. When your mind starts getting illumined, it will be very, very easy to concentrate for a long time, and also to concentrate more deeply.

Purifying the breath

Before you start your meditation, repeat "No God but Allah" about twenty times as fast as possible in order to purify your breath. Feel that you are really growing into the very Breath of God. Unless and until the breath is purified, the mind will not remain one-pointed.

I need God

Focus your attention on a picture. You can look at your Master's picture or you can look at yourself in the mirror. If you concentrate on your own reflection, feel that you are totally one with the physical being that you are seeing. Then try to enter into the image that you are seeing. From there you should try to grow with one thought: God wants you and you need God. Repeat: "God wants me, I need God. God wants me, I need God." Then you will see that slowly, steadily and unerringly this divine thought is entering into you and permeating your inner and outer existence, giving you purity in your mind, vital and body.

Asserting control over the mind

You can tell your mind, "I shall not allow you to go in your own way. Now I want to think of God." Repeat the name of God inwardly or aloud. Then say, "I want to have purity in my whole existence." Then repeat "purity, purity, purity." At that time you are not allowing your mind to think of impurity or of any other thing. Don't give your mind a chance to wander; simply utilize your mind for your own purpose. You have millions of things to accomplish in and through the mind. But the mind is so naughty and mischievous that if you don't utilize it, it will utilize you.
 Throw evil thoughts out
Each time an undivine thought enters into your mind, throw it out of your mind. It is like a foreign element, a thief, that has entered your room. Why should you consciously allow a thief to remain in your room when you have the capacity to throw him out? When an undivine thought enters into your mind, just capture the thought and throw it into the blazing fire of your inner aspiration.

Strangling bad thoughts

When a thought comes that is not pure, good or divine, immediately repeat the words "No God but Allah" very fast, and each time you use the words "No God but Allah," feel that you are creating a snake that will coil around the undivine thought and strangle it.

What’s making you feel so unmotivated at the moment
Feeling a little deflated today? Maybe you’ve had an entire week of discouragement, or maybe you don’t really know what’s making you feel so unmotivated at the moment. Don’t worry, it’s perfectly natural to have a slump in your motivation sometimes.
The step that people often miss is the creation of a powerful, beautiful and inspiring vision for what they want. Instead of dedicating their attention and focus to where they want to go, they instead get tripped up focusing all of their attention on where they are now.

To create a vision, we need to take our attention off our old stories and our present situation, and use our imagination to focus on where we want to go.

Make your mind like land
TO purify our mind, we need to first broaden ourselves with activities of compassion so as to gradually get rid of the self-centered habits.
TO broaden ourselves, we should FIRST FILL OUR MIND with BEAUTIFUL THOUGHTS:

WE should try to make our mind like land, because land has beautiful virtues: when animals shed their excrement on land, land never express anything angrily, because it is not swayed and is completely indifferent; when humans (the rich and famous, sages and saints, or perfect people) walk over land, land feels nothing, again because it is not swayed and is completely indifferent.

Land is not involved or affected by favorable or dangerous situations. Land always welcomes all kinds of situations. It will not take or give up anything, is never confused, is never swayed or attracted by anything, never starts an idea or gives up an idea, peacefully enjoys leisure and endures patiently, and is completely serene. These are some of the beautiful virtues of the land that we step on every day.

IF you have no mind to all living things, then what's the harm of letting these things surround you? We really should learn the spiritual part of land and cultivate the broad and generous mind. This will help to purify our mind.

THE GOOD and THE BAD

WHEN you face favorable situations or dangerous situations, you can still do everything without the least worry and feel comfortable and able to do anything of your own free will. When you meet somebody, perhaps the person you like the least in your life, a person who looks at you with dirty stares, do you still feel   comfortable and free? As a matter of fact, in these kinds of moments, there is a fight between "The state of holiness and wisdom" and "The temptations or evil influence." If we use the worldly words it's like a fight between "The Good" and "The Bad." Becoming The Good or The Bad is all depended on our MIND. BECAUSE The Good and The Bad are decided by our mind, maybe we can put it this way: The Good and The Bad share our mind. When The Good defeats The Bad, the whole of our mind is Good. When The Bad defeats The Good, the whole of our mind is Bad. From this angle you might have an idea that The Good and The Bad are all from our mind.

THE way our mind treats the situations we face creates the difference between "The state of holiness and wisdom"(The Good) and "The temptations or evil influence"(The Bad). If our mind is contaminated by situations, the mind becomes "The Bad." If our mind is not contaminated by situations, the mind becomes "The Good".

WHEN adverse circumstances come

WHEN adverse circumstances come, just let them do what they like; when adverse circumstances go, just let them do what they like also. When fortunate circumstances come, just let them arise naturally without extra effort; when fortunate circumstances go, again just let them depart naturally without extra effort. Our mind should not be linked up with any circumstances, whether good circumstances or bad circumstances. This will help Purify Our Mind.
WHEN adverse circumstances come, do not feel delighted, when adverse circumstances leave, do not feel disappointed. If the mind feels delighted or disappointed, it shows that we can not control ourselves. In this moment, our mind will have all kinds of entanglements of love, hate, desire, and possession by force. After this step, all kinds of problems will follow and never end.

None is permanent
IF we observe things around us, we will find out that "None is permanent". Things, whether material or non- material, change constantly. Some of the changes are evident, some of them are not. Ever since life began, natural phenomena have been like this. From this point of view, we should understand that things always arise depending on conditions. When the appropriate conditions come together, things arise; when those conditions disperse, things cease.

IF you could understand the point that Nothing is permanent, you will not keep thinking of something in your memory all the time, because it is impermanent and will eventually vanish, no matter how much you keep remembering it. In such a case, why don't we just leave it alone?
IN the Universe, everything that we can see, hear, and think of all arising depending on conditions, meaning that everything is impermanent. The people we love the most or the situations we like the most will all vanish. The people we hate the most or the situations we like the least will all vanish too. Do we still want to persist in our own opinions of things that happen one minute and vanish the next in this world?

All kinds of thoughts are in our mind

THERE are all kinds of thoughts in our mind: evil thoughts, greedy thoughts, and kind thoughts. These thoughts are always confused, tangled, profuse, disordered, and most of the time, we can not control them. Actions, motions, works, and even mistakes all arise from thoughts in our mind. When we put an idea of going to a place in our mind, then action will lead our body to that place. When we start an idea of going to the church, then action will bring us to that church. We will spend our entire fortune doing something because of a little thought in our mind. We will begin to be deeply attached to one thing or act on momentary impulse because of a little thought in our mind. We will offend people by our words because of a little wrong thought in our mind. We might do something offensive or harmful to society's morals because of a little evil thought in our mind.

WE always maneuver for positions or benefits against rivals. We try to cause alienation between friends or relatives by spreading rumors or doing something. Does anybody know why? It is because "What one is thinking of at any given moment is often evil thoughts."
THE Good and The Bad all are from our MIND. We are the masters of the mind and also are the watershed of The Good and The Bad. Mind produces all kinds of thoughts; mind is the origin of events that follow from Good thoughts and Bad thoughts. From this point of view, we all should understand how important it is to purify our mind.
How to Overcome Adversity
Adversity is more than just one difficulty or setback. Adversity can be seen as a series of difficulties or misfortunes that keep you from achieving your goals and finding happiness. So how do you overcome it? You may think that all of the advice out there about overcoming adversity is easier said than done, but in reality, you too can overcome adversity if you cultivate the right attitude and take the steps to get what you want and deserve. If you want to start overcoming adversity today, see Step 1 to be on your way to the life you've worked for.