Forget about how other people view you.

Not only will any very obvious failure soon be yesterday's news, but if you think other people are judging you (and maybe they are, maybe they aren't), it won't be long before they're too busy worrying about their own failures to sling mud at yours. After all, everyone's going to fail now and then; inflicting gloating on someone else has a way of boomeranging right back, a reality which serves as a natural form of tapering off constant criticism. And ultimately, what's it matter what the critics think? Most of the time they haven't a clue what effort has gone into what you've done and what you're trying to achieve – it's all too easy to be an expert critic without being privy to the inside information. 

Follow these tips:

1) Start to challenge what your imagination throws up at you. "They are all going to hate me! ... Hold on, how do I know that? Some people will like me, some will think I'm okay, and some might be indifferent."

2) How people perceive you may have more to do with them than you anyway. They may even like or dislike you merely because you've triggered an association in their minds and reminded them of someone they liked (or didn't like) from their past. That has nothing to do with you.

3) We all have quirks, unique perspectives and idiosyncrasies. The more relaxed we become with our own differences, the more comfortable we start to feel just being ourselves.

4) Appearances are deceptive. What someone thinks of you may be (is very likely to be) totally wide of the mark. If someone forms an opinion of you based on superficialities, then it is up to them, not you, to reform those opinions based on a more objective and rational view. Leave it to them to worry about - that is, if they have an opinion at all.

5) Worrying that other people will think us stupid, ugly, pathetic, or un-cool is to do those people a disservice. Many people will judge you fairly and give you the benefit of the doubt - so give them the benefit of the doubt.

6) You wouldn't be thinking about what onlookers thought of your clothes or your body shape or the colour of your eyes. All that fluff would disappear from your consciousness. When you are impassioned and fascinated, say by a conversation you're having, then you tend to forget to bother to imagine what others may be thinking of you.

7) Worry about what may be of great value to us. The fact is that someone will always be upset somewhere and that's not always your responsibility.

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