Marriage is either a gift or a disaster

Marriage is either a gift or a disaster

Make a wise choice in a marriage partner

Choose the kind of love that will stand the test of time

When life falls apart, you want someone you can run to, not someone you want to run from

By

Sayed Abuelmagd

Description

The spouse either enhances your life or complicates it.

Be with a spouse who is proud of having you.

Life is short. Too short to waste a single second with anyone who doesn't appreciate you.

A wrong marriage will make you alone than when you were single.

How do you know who to marry?

Choose a suitable spouse, preserve chastity, and cultivate true love.

This unique new book gives practical and insightful advice to women and men to help them make a wise choice in a marriage partner. Using time-tested strategies and surprising new ideas, it outlines the criteria most important in the selection of a mate.

This book is required reading for everyone before they make the most important decision in their life, and is a must read for parents of a daughter or a son!

This is most definitely not for everyone. Most people I know could never give up their way of dating and cohabitating together before marriage. We live in a selfish self- centered world.

For those who are fed up with these modern ways and long for the old, give this book a try. And remember, 85% of all married couples who cohabitated before they were married, get divorced. This is a terrible statistic. Fight the trends and go for the road less traveled.

If young men and women would read and heed this book we would probably have less divorce.

If you read this book before you get married, you will have less "bumps" in the road during the first few years.

This book helps you ask the pertinent questions to see where you may have the problems and correct them before you get married. It is for anyone who is even thinking about the dating game.

It's a great alternative. The younger the reader the better! Pre-teens would be my suggested audience. Moms and Dads - you will be glad that you purchased this book early and save yourself and your kids a lot of heartache.

 The book contains a lot of good and understandable advice. Much of it runs counter to present-day culture (e.g., no kissing before marriage), but that doesn't inherently make it wrong.

This book helps you to find your soul mate without losing your soul. It fills the void often left open by the traditional "abstinence" teaching. The book is for women and men of all stages of life.

When you get this beautiful book, you will dive in and hardly come up for air. This is not your mother's "abstinence" talk. This book peels away the layers of justification, insecurities, excuses, and settling that all women use and face.

It walks through the mindset of women and men, trekking through their darkest thoughts on the subjects of romantic love and self-love.

Each chapter builds upon the other, teaching lessons of love, value, and constructing a relationship with God. All the junk filling our minds separates us from the One who created us.

 Abstinence" really means nothing if we don't balance our choices with reasoning. It is too easy to fall when we're standing on a pile of sand. Choose to stand on a rock.

 You will learn the most important lesson from this book: In a partner, you should find someone who brings you closer to God and strengthens that relationship, not push you away and weaken it.

 Nowadays, it's hard to find a decent person who has good values, but this book gives you hope. It lets you know that you are not alone feeling like this, and the right person is out there. You just have to have faith. This book is written to anyone who is single, and to people who are in a relationship, but just need some guidance to know they are on the right path.

If you have a teenage daughter, you can give her this book to read, because it reinforces the moral idea of staying pure and waiting for the right man. If you have a son, you will want him to read it, because it would teach him how to treat a gal!

 In this book you will find relief and comfort, also the strength to truly believe in what you think is best for you and your future. You will learn that love comes naturally, and that you will know exactly when you find the person that God has prepared for you in every sense. Relationships are not made for solving personal problems. Both need to be complete in order to share and still grow learning from each other.

 You will be more willing to let everything in God's hands. This book is packed with practical, time-tested advice on how to choose a suitable spouse, preserve chastity, and cultivate true love.

This book is informative, and really does tell you if you are looking for a healthy relationship, this is what you need to do. In it, you’ll discover the secret that has transformed millions of relationships worldwide.

Read this book to keep your head up and watch the beautiful sun that is right there in front of you, shining its warmth on our faces and our souls!

Great book! If you are looking at it--don't hesitate--BUY! You will be very happy you did.

Chapter One

Evil Woman will inevitably harm you

When you find this woman, run

1– The woman who is amazed with herself and belittles her husband.

2– If he honors her she sees it not except as a result of her virtue over him.

3– She shows no gratitude for his courtesy. In her eyes he always falls short.

4– She lashes her tongue out at him like a sharp sword.

5– Her imprudence has removed the cover of shyness from her face: she is not shy from exposing her faults even when in front of the neighbors.

6– She is like a growling dog with rabies, barking and biting.

7– Her husband’s face is sad, and his honor is violated with the people.

8– She over burdens him with her bad etiquettes and does not tend to his worldly or religious affairs.

9– Nor does she uphold her duties towards him in spite of his companionship and the many children they may share.

10– She doesn’t recognize any good that he does.

11– His covering is revealed and made public. All the good that he does is buried.

12– He reaches the morning dispirited and enters the evening reprimanding her.

13– His drink is sour. His food is rage. His children are wasted and his house is destroyed. 

14– His clothes are filthy and hair dishevel. If he laughs he is worn down and if he speaks he feels sickened. His day is night; his night is misery.

15– She bites him like a vicious snake, and stings like a scorpion.

16-she moves with the wind and flies with everyone who has wings

Be a reflection of what you would like to receive. If you want love, give love. If you want respect, give respect. What you give out will return to you.

Marry the woman who is proud of you. Marry the woman who listens to you, understands you, treats you well and makes you priority.

Real love doesn’t care about body type, model looks or wallet size. It is more concerned with what inside.

A pretty face gets old, a beautiful body will change but a good woman will be a good woman.

Chapter Two

Evil man will inevitably harm you

When you find this man, run

• Criticizing his wife

Instead, choose to see the good in your wife. Compliment her on all the things she is doing right. Next time you find yourself wanting to tell her something you don't like about her, switch it around and pay her a sincere compliment. She will love it.

• Controlling where she's going, what she's doing, how much she's spending and more.

Instead of stressing about that, work together as a team, encouraging and supporting each other. Let your wife be her own person, and give her wings to fly.

• He does not treat her respectfully

Please, husbands! Your wife isn't an object. She is your wife, your best friend and your queen. She deserves your utmost respect, especially when it comes to sexual intimacy. Always respect her and her body and work on establishing emotional connection and trust before thinking about sharing sexual intimacy with your wife. Sex can be the most unifying, fulfilling and beautiful thing in marriage when you both treat each other respectfully.

• He neglects her

Please don't forget about her. Don't be too busy to call her, text her or recognize her when she walks in the room. The next time you see her, give her a big hug and tell her you love her. Let her know she is your top priority by putting her first — ahead of work, time with your buddies, or watching that game. Sit on the couch and talk to her. Tell her about your day, your thoughts, your worries, and your funny experiences. Beware, you may find that sparks suddenly start flying around like crazy.

• He doesn’t watch his mouth

Husbands, come on. You aren't teenage boys anymore (and even then, bad language wasn't really cool). Watch your mouth. Work to cut the swearing habit, and remove crude, rude and dirty language from your vocabulary. You may be amazed at all the other words available for use in expressing your feelings. Your wife deserves to hear words that a gentleman would speak, not a raga-muffin. Buy yourself a dictionary. OK, not really, but try some new words. Your wife will be tickled pink and others will think you're much more intelligent.

• He views pornography and lets his eyes linger everywhere he goes

This is one sure way to ruin your marriage, your life and your future. Simply put, don't view pornography and let your eyes linger everywhere you go. Look inward and decide to choose a better path.

If you are entrenched in the ugly habit of pornography, seek out professional help (there are many great resources to turn to). Find a counselor who can help you begin the process of becoming free from this addiction. You have to want change for yourself and for those you love. So dig deep and decide what kind of life you really want.

• He has too high of expectations

The last thing your sweet wife needs to hear is that she doesn't measure up to your unrealistic expectations. Please don't compare your wife's body, budgeting skills, or parenting skills to so-and-so down the street. Your comparisons will, over time, crush her self-esteem. Decide to be kind, to be patient, to be forgiving and to be flexible. The more you emphasize all of her positive qualities, the more she will naturally start living up to those positive compliments and become the woman you describe, and more.

• He doesn't help out around the house

Seriously! You may bring in half the income or all of it, but that doesn't mean you can chill on the couch while your wife cleans, tidies and washes dishes day-in and day-out. Kick it up a notch and offer to help out. Clean the toilet (yes, the one you use every day), carry in the groceries or unload the dishwasher (oh, the horror). You and your wife are a team and ought to work side by side creating the home of your dreams.

 He loses his temper often

You are a grown man. Yelling at your wife is not appropriate, effective or helpful. Hitting is completely off limits. Rage, lashing out, throwing things and threatening are all forms of abuse. You can learn to control your temper. You can learn to respond calmly and with love. As you do, your wife will feel safe with you and love being around you.

• He lies and cheats

If you think you can sneak off with that babe from work and your wife will never know, then you're kidding yourself and in for a very rude awakening. And honestly, even if your wife never found out, it's still wrong. Don't throw away everything that is truly meaningful for a fleeting moment of pleasure. Choose to be honest. Choose to be loyal. Live up to those promises you made to your bride. She deserves all that, and more.

Now, if you saw yourself in any of these ugly habits, don't beat yourself up. Rather decide to be better and make changes. Chart a course today that will lead you, and your wife, to that happily-ever-after marriage you have always wanted.

Chapter Three

The top rules for picking the right wife